Being Kind vs. Being Strong

Don’t you take my kindness for weakness. Because I’m gentle doesn’t mean I’m not strong.
— Soul Children, Don't Take My Kindness for Weakness

I was listening to an awesome 8 Tracks soul funk instrumental playlist and stumbled across this song with lyrics that made me stop. I listen to music as working background, and wasn't really paying attention. But these lyrics jumped out to me: Don't you take my kindness for weakness. Because I'm gentle doesn't mean I'm not strong. It spoke to me because that's how I feel being a woman entrepreneur, and how I feel being a social entrepreneur. 

I've been told by people that I'm quiet, but that I have a quiet strength about me. I haven't really know whether to take this as a compliment or an insult, but I've been trying to figure it out. 

I was raised to be a nurturer, as are most women. Growing up, my chores revolved around taking care of my family. I was always told to "be nice" above everything else. It was better to do less well if it meant not hurting others' feelings. And the worst sin of all was to make other people uncomfortable. 

This is why being a woman entrepreneur and being a social entrepreneur are so emotionally difficult for me. I'm going through this growth phase where I'm learning how to balance kindness with strength, compassion with ambition, love with drive. It's a delicate balance, but it's so important. I want to be a compassionate leader, a leader that inspires others and helps people solve their own problems. That takes nurture and motivation combined.